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When I think of all of the challenges in my life and how I made it through I am amazed. I think most of us can relate to everything from sexual abuse to divorce. I have been shot at and missed...Beat up and laughed in his face as I walked out the door. No matter what I always pull myself out brush myself off and move on. We women don't become the abusers or serial killers... we become stronger and continue to search for that perfect love. That one that will make our lives easier. It is inside all of us women to survive. My mantra is and always will be "I AM A SURVIVOR NOT A VICTIM" this year alone; I lost my job and was denied unmemployment for 5 months.. I won but it took forever. Almost lost my house and my son had two surgeries. And the love of my life has gone...I fought and clawed and took jobs cleaning, babysitting whatever was needed to survive because that is what we do best SURVIVE...all my love to all the strong women out there...

This is not only a cool page - but if you take the time to READ the posts ... it'll become a *MEANINGFUL* page. ... Incredible words have been written here. Kudu's to you all! ... I noticed only a 2 or 3 men had posted. That's too bad. They should, as you invited them to participate. What I would add is --- --- --- --- --- "what has made you strong - has oftentimes made men strong as well ... and for oftentimes, very similiar reasons. Our life experiences have added to our strength. It works both ways" --- --- --- --- --- Strong Women can (and ARE) oftentimes GREAT Mom's! ... A while back I created an event page out here on BoN called -----> "A Page Dedicated To All The Mom's Out Here" <----- The address is http://www.bikerornot.com/event/12283 or you can view the page from my home page listed under EVENTS. ... (have a look! - it's dedicated to ladies like yourself)

I would also add ... I'm NOT 'Father Of The Year' here ... (far from it) ... (lol) but I've been a single 'PHYSICAL' custodial Dad to my son since he was '3' ... He'll be 17 in a few short weeks. ... as many of you can relate ... 'Single Parenting' in-and-of-itself creates a certain 'Strength' that the 'visiting parent' sometimes just DOESN'T GET! ... Wouldn't you agree? ... (<:)

No matter what the circumstances are, divorce is never easy. I have been there more than once and mine will be finalized once again next week. It takes friends and family to help one get through it and it really sucks when your friends seem to abandon you. I am fortunate in some ways that I didn't have any kids to put through this but it sure does alot even to my family to see what I go through. I still believe that there is someone out there for everyone and I just hope that someday I will find that one guy that can show me what i've been missing over all these years. I'm glad that it hasn't made me bitter like some that i've seen. We are strong women and we will always get through it and to find others like me on here is a blessing because you all are my newfound friends and I really do cherish all of you! God bless you all.

Hi folks, I just wanted to say what a great venue of expression has been created here. All my respect to the ladies and men who have found their strength. Yes, it happens to us guys too, married controlling bitches who were looking for nothing but a wallet, etc. You know the stories. I came to pay respect, not bitch :-)

As the saying goes.This to will pass. Still hard to believe. But I try to believe every day that is true

Well i haven't been very strong lately. I have let stress take over, and forgot about the real meaning of life. To live it and love it. Well for now on I am taking back my life. I will not put things off that i want to do any more. My friends are a part of what keeps me going and i have pushed them all away. And what for? Hell if i know. So I will have to push myself instead of waiting for someone else to do it for me. Only I can make a change, and this is the beginning.

I can only say that all the strength I have had to get through my life has come from my Dad, the need to provide for my daughters.. and all of great friends men and women that have been there for me when i needed them.. and even when i didn't over all of the years.. I honestly beleive that we all play a role in each others lives.. we need to cherish the time we have, the friends we make.. the love we have to share and the love we recieve from those in our lives whether its permanent, a short visit, or a moment where someone puts a smile on our face or just shares some kindness.. on the flip side .. the jackasses, bitches, backstabbing , lieing cheating people have also taught me.. so everyone has their contribution to my strength..

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I have enjoyed reading the comments on this event page. Having gone thru 2 divorces, I understand the heartbreak way too well. I have been fortunate this time to meet a man that has taught me what a woman should feel like. He was a Godsend to me and where ever our path leads I will always be thankful to him and the courage he has given me to get thru the hurdles that have been placed before me. He will always be my best friend and I hope that all you ladies out there are lucky too find someone like him.

Thank you, Curves for the mention about the Dragon Queen Fundraiser. Please visit my site and join the Fundraiser. Read how you can help a young lady who has lost everything and a guy who needs help because of an accident. He now can't work. By helping him, we can help her regain her life again. It is an amazing thing to be able to do this. I had to seize the moment to help out when I saw the connection here. Feel free to text me if you have questions. DONATION button on my profile page now which makes it very easy to donate!!xxx

TY Rebecca!

Those that know me know I'm facing the toughest challenge in my life! I'm doing my best to be strong & focus on what now needs to be done... I am blessed to have my little boy in my life. He's the love of my life and he's the reason why I will continue to fight.... Curves is an awesome woman... She puts aside her needs for others.... Thank you!!!

Quote of the Day...coming from "StormBreeze" Friendship isn't about who you have known the longest,...but about who came and never left your side. Thanks Girl!!

Thanks Star and HarleyDiva for your posts! Read on Ladies...lots of "Good Stuff" here!

"PROMISE ME YOU'LL ALWAYS REMEMBER. YOU'RE BRAVER THAN YOU BELIEVE, STRONGER THEN YOU SEEM, SMARTER THAN YOU THINK."

No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.....It took me a looong time to realize that fact. "you're stupid, ugly, fat, a bad mother"....how many times have we all heard that? And how did we feel when we did hear it? Now I look at it like this...If someone tried to convince me I was pink with green dots...I would laugh and think how stupid they were being, because it's obvious it isn't true.....apply the same principal when they say hurtful things.... it's not an easy process...but you can train your mind to think differently...and once I did....I was gone...I spread my wings like the great eagle, and I flew!!!! Much love and respect to all who come to this page! Star

Folk's...please visit Dragon Queen's homepage for a few minutes, and click on "Dragon Queen's Fundraiser". She has undertaken a wonderful endeavor and she needs our help. We have an opportunity to help out someone that's not so strong these days! Lets help...

Do not be ashamed that you made a mistake about a man.....he gave you the wrong information in the beginning. He got away with it because he tricked you and he is a professional at it. You made your decision based on love and need. He did not...or at least not the same needs you had! Yours was love, his was control through a false mask and fear that maybe something was wrong with YOU. I am here to tell you it was not your fault. Know your friends here will support you in any way they can. You have only to ask for help. Put it out in the universe....it will be answered. It always is....xxx

This place just blooms with the "flowers" of women's minds and I am very proud to be a member of this group. I have gone back and read some earlier entries and I encourage all of you to do so. There are many words of wisdom to be found here. It warms my heart to 'hear' all of it! May you all be blessed ...... your words will reach someone in need and help change that person's life for the better. Trust me.....I know. Love ya!

Thanks Curves. And for the Biker Prom invite as well. Unfortunately, i am not allowed to accept an invitation, or join, on the event page. I am, however accepting in spirit, I intend to be there. Thanks again and count on seeing me there! It's All Good! :-)

HEY CURVES.. WELL I LIKE TO TAKE CREDIT FOR ALL OF IT.. BUT ONLY THE FIRST HALF OF THAT QUOTE IS MINE..THE REST I FOUND ON ANOTHER SITE.. WISE AND COMFORTING WORDS NONE THE LESS.. LADIES.. DO THIS FOR YOURSELF..IT IS TRUELY HEALING FOR YOUR SOUL.

Doc...thanks for stopping in!Forgive me...I could have sworn I invited everyone on my friends list. As a matter of fact, I invited you to Biker Prom. I am glad you enjoyed the page. I receive countless emails daily from both men and women who want to share their stories, but are not yet comfortable doing so publicly. I get so many, it takes me days to respond to them all, but I do. I couldn't be happier that people find comfort and solace in the words of other's. I am deeply touched by your post and can relate when you say "you don't even know how you got here". Its a struggle; a difficult, painful, and life altering one! Guess what???.....No other task, job, or life experience can ever compare. I say...bring it on! Come visit us again soon...I am making it an ongoing event at the request of the readers!

SOLE....your's is the quote of the day "forgive yourself for your mistakes... and give yourself permission to be flawed.. you will like yourself better!" Thanks....awesome quote!! I have already accepted this with myself, and it is liberating!! Try it GIRLZ!

hey i stoled this from another place..and posted it early on home tag page. forgive yourself for your mistakes... and give yourself permission to be flawed.. you will like yourself better. one of my own power words ladies is..... ACCEPTANCE.

thanks doc...we are the real backbone of the world..ladies.. stand tall.. and walk with pride.

First, thank you SoledadAngel, were it not for you, I would not have seen this page. I had to stop reading because emotionally, it was just too much. What beautiful souls we have on this site. How much we have been through, and how strong it has made us. Like so many others, mothers and fathers, I found myself raising two boys at the ages of 7 and 9. They have not heard a word from their father in 9 years. My oldest son graduated in 2008 and my youngest son graduates (hopefully :-) ... this year. I Never thought I would see this day, and I still don't know how I got here. But I thank God every day for what I have, my sons, my family and some really wonderful friends. But especially for giving me the strength to make it, and for showing me how much "we" can accomplish when we really need to. Thanks Curves for starting this page... God bless.

when i was at the end of my marriage..i finally woke one nite and the rush of all the anger and sadness of all he put me threw came crashing down on me. in that moment i decided to take my life back..my fredom of choice in all things. telling myself.. from this moment on. I WOULD NOT ALLOW ONE MORE YEAR,MONTH,WEEK,DAY,HOUR OR MINUTE.. WOULD I GIVE HIM AND THE THINGS THAT HAD BEEN HOLDING ME IN THIS PLACE... that was the first real breath i had taken in 15 years.. and i've not look back.. revisting the past brings you nothing.. so all the women out here now anD the ones who hopefully come to this same place.. pick yourself up and step and take another..and keep steping.. you may stumble..even may fall to your knees.. get back up.. because the bottom line is this.. believe in yourself..depend on you and only you.. for there is the the true power...and move on.

Peppermint....We're grinning and bearing with you girl!

Eeshnah (Star) What an amazing journey you have traveled already. Not surprising to read that all the pain and loss in your life has made you stronger within. I lost my dad, brother and mom in a years time. I fell into a horrible abyss as a result. I've never felt pain the way I did then and can't imagine feeling anything worse now. I find that so ironic don't you? The same pain that destroys us, has the capability to heal us?? I am a different person than I was a year ago. Most importantly, I have learned that we never know how long our presence will grace this earth and therefore; we need to make it count somehow! I'm taking this quote from your most beautiful and personal post: Live your life like there is no tomorrow; Tomorrow is never guaranteed...Thank you for taking the time to write to us all!

Winking...Thanks for the courage you have shown by writing on this page. I am deeply sorry for the loss of your wife, as I am sure all of the BON family is. I am so glad you have someone that is there to help you through this very tough time...you should know, that we're here for you too!

I'm not quite sure where to start... so I will start with this: Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith." The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed." This old saying is very true. Everyone has or is batteling something, and how you handle it can very much depend on the end results. My life has been one hell of a rocky road, but I keep my chin up, brush off my knees (sometimes apply band-aids) and just keep moving forward. I lived in an extremely abusive marriage for 23 years, buried 1 son and 1 granddaughter, battled Leukemia twice in the last 5 years and just recently buried a little brother...it always seems to be something. But my spirit is strong enough and with the help of a few very dear close friends...I'm still here, living my life like there is no tomorrow. Tomorrow is never guaranteed...do I look to the future? You bet I do...but for me...one day at a time. Here on BON, I have met some amazing people and I thank the Creator every day for bringing them into my life....I've even found the man of my dreams here...which I gave up looking for years ago...so no matter whats going on in your life, please keep the faith that it will eventually get better, one way or another. With much love and respect, Star

Thanks Essential 1, I feel lucky to have friends here on BON and another site. I hope someday to get to meet the people I like to call FRIENDS. Thanks everone for being there for myself, and others that need friends to chat with.

Wingking I am deeply sorry for your lost but yet so grateful a wonderful friend of mine has still found love within his friends. You are a great man, a strong and funny man. I'm glad we're friends.

So true Precious....even if its just one person we help, it would all be worth it! Thanks so much for posting!!

I have read many of the comments here. Let me add one. I lost my wife in Feb. 07. A wonderful lady has talked to me and helped me through some real bad times. Even thought she has lost both a father in law and her father, both in the same year, and now sees to the care of her mother in law. Who is mentally handycapted. If we dont talk every other day she calls to check on me. Yes. I guess it works both ways but I think she has kept me from wasting my life, and giving me the will power to keep going. I lost my wife to pancreatic cancer.

My close friends always thought I was so strong and had the perfect life until I came forward and admitted to living with an abusive husband for many years. I realized that I was not the one that should be ashamed he should have been. If I can help another woman to be strong by my actions I have accomplished something in life.

StormBreeze...this is amazingly profound, and beautiful! Thank you so much for taking the time to share it with us. Your post is so much appreciated!

October is not only Breast Cancer Awareness Month it is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month. One is a pink ribbon and one is a purple ribbon. One people speak so openly about and one people don't like to speak about. They both kill left untreated and they both affect those we love for a lifetime. They both leave us weak and they both can make us strong. They both leave scars...physically, emotionally and mentally. They both change us forever. Never settle for less then you are worth or you will get less then you settled for. Always believe in yourself. When you tell yourself things could be worse remind yourself could be better. Speak Out and be strong.

Got that right "Truthfulone"!

A woman should not depend on the protection of a man, she should depend on protecting herself!!!!

Angel....this was awesome! Great way to end the week! Thanks!

i got this from my friend teester on my wall. it speaks volumes to us all.. please read and give it some thought. Just up the road from my home is a field, with two horses in it From a distance, each horse looks like any other horse. But if you stop your car, or are walking by, you will notice something quite amazing.... Looking into the eyes of one horse will disclose that he is blind. His owner has chosen not to have him put down, but has made a good home for him. This alone is amazing. If you stand nearby and listen, you will hear the sound of a bell. Looking around for the source of the sound, you will see that it comes from the smaller horse in the field. Attached to the horse's halter is a small bell It lets the blind friend know where the other horse is, so he can follow. As you stand and watch these two friends, You'll see that the horse with the bell is always checking on the blind horse, And that the blind horse will listen for the bell and then slowly walk To where the other horse is, Trusting that he will not be led astray. When the horse with the bell returns To the shelter of the barn each evening, It stops occasionally and looks back, Making sure that the blind friend isn't too far behind to hear the bell. Like the owners of these two horses, God does not throw us away just because we are not perfect Or because we have problems or challenges. He watches over us and even brings others into our lives To help us when we are in need. Sometimes we are the blind horse Being guided by the little ringing bell of those who God places in our lives. Other times we are the guide horse, helping others to find their way..... Good friends are like that ... You may not always see them, but you know they are always there. Please listen for my bell and I'll listen for yours. And remember.... Be kinder than necessary- Everyone you meet is fighting Some kind of battle.. Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly.... Leave the rest to God

Rose; No one can know your pain unless they've been there themselves! Reading your words tells us just how strong you are; and gives us strength. Knowing of your loss makes my heart heavy and sad. I am glad however; that you have a beautiful ray of sunshine in your life. I believe you two are meant for each other; to help each other, and be there for one another. God bless you and the little man in your life! We are here for you!

DYNA GAL....I just love OPRAH! Hope everyone enjoys Dyna Gals's post!! Thanks sweetie for taking the time to visit and post on the event!

Dreamcatcher....thanks for your support and all you do! Women like you honor who we are, and what we're truly made of! Please support Dreamcatcher, especially during the month of October!

Today's quote of the day comes to us from "Gumbo Girl": "BE THE KIND OF WOMAN, THAT, WHEN YOU WAKE UP IN THE MORNING THE DEVIL HIMSELF SAYS "OH SHIT! SHE'S UP!" Love it!!! Thanks BON GIRL!

Rose, I didnt know that..sorry sister! ..yea, Life can go on can't it? Good for you! The love of friends can take a person a long way!

Curves, I hear ya! some home for 27 yrs...kids gone...but when they come over...its like little kids in the back yard again. Moving will be tough! I will inhale and press on! my life now!

Hello all, I know I am strong minded, stong opinions, strong with muscles,but when my 21 yr old daughter passed away Dec 10 2007 I thought I was gonna die; I wanted to die. But she left me an 11 month old grandson and he NEEDED ME. And little did I know how much I needed him. This Friday Tara~my angel~would have been 23 yrs old. I am not sure how I made it...well I do, my friends. I have no family in TX. Very little family to talk about. But what I do have is the love of my FRIENDS!! They have walked with me through this terrible ordeal and I know my angel Tara Michelle is looking down on me and saying 'thanks Mom...thanks!' for taking care of her only son...my only grandson. i do it all by myself. No support from anyone...just me and my buddy! Trust me, when I do meet someone we are a package deal. And well worth it! So my life as a biker has stopped or at least takin the back seat to him. He is the reason I get up. Thank you friends for walking this path in life with me. I love each of you!

OPRAH PRINTED THIS: AND ITS A GREAT READ AND POSTED THIS oN FRIG AND IN BATHROOM ON THE MIRROR: Also SENT TO all MY GIRLFRIENDS: 1) If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. 2) If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. 3) Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviOr. 4) Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. 5) Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. 6) Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. 7) If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. 8) Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. 9) Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. 10) The only person you can control in a relationship is you. 11) Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. 12) He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? 13) Always have your own set of friends separate from his. 14) Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. 15) Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. 16) You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. 17) Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. 18) Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more, nothing less. 19) Never let a man define who you are. 20) Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. 21) A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. 22) All men are NOT dogs. 23) You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street. 24) You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. 25) Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. 26) Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. 27) Never move into his mother's house. 28) Never co-sign for a man. 29) Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. 30) Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

In order to be ready for someone else to come into your life, you must be content with yourself. If you are looking for someone to come into your life and complete you, you will always be empty and emotionally adrift. Be responsible for your own happiness, so that others may basque in your aura and wish to be near you...

I have always said that there is nothing more amazing in this world than the strength of any woman who is fighting a battle. And we have fought a battle in one way or another...I am single, have been for years, independantly in love with myself. I love my freedom, I love my life...but it is not always easy. Being that October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, I think this is very approiate. I am a memeber of the Harley Angels and we ride for a cure...I am honored to be part of such a group of beautiful women. We are amazing and beautiful spirits...each and every one has something unique to offer the world..the sad part is those that dont believe they do... Lakota Proverb “A nation is not conquered until the hearts of its women are on the ground. Then it is finished, no matter how brave its warriors or how strong their weapons.”

I read this somewhere,, and i'm probably not going to get it exactly right, but it goes something like this.. "BE THE KIND OF WOMAN, THAT, WHEN YOU WAKE UP IN THE MORNING THE DEVIL HIMSELF SAYS "OH SHIT! SHE'S UP!" lol I was sent an invite to join this event and i hope that if someone ever needs to talk to a friend... i'll be a good listener! :)

Presently, Curves is going through another emotionally trying time. Can someone just cut me a break already....lol!! Finally sold my house, and breaking up the memories of so many years into boxes to keep, and those for goodwill, won't be easy. My babies grew up in this beautiful house we built "exactly" as we wanted, and now, in five weeks, we'll be saying goodbye to our home, friends, neighbors and memories of a dozen years. Goodness, time does really fly by!....This weekend I watched as my nearly grown daughter walked in our cul-de-sac on her way to visit a friend, and for a brief moment, my mind went back 10 years, and I was suddenly watching as my little toddler ran down the driveway to play in that very same cul-de-sac. I wasn't able to contain the tears, because I really didn't want to! Those years were wonderful memories, and I have many more where those came from. I shall learn to treasure them, and let them fill my heart with fondness instead of sadness! I can't wait till it's all over....New Chapter...New Life....New Memories!

thanks curves.. tough days ahead for some of us here.. be that real friend..and reach out to them. we may not ask for that help,smile or hug.so..give it anyways..it will matter in the end..i'm thankful for my friends.

Strong Women: I am looking to post a strong quote daily on this event. Some of you express them routinely in your posts without even realizing just how amazing they are. It would be neat to post a great quote daily. Please send me an email with your favorite quote; and I will make sure to post it with your name attached. I think via email is best because this way, we don't get hit with numerous quotes in one day, and I have an ample supply of quotes to continue posting for days! Thanks Ladies!

Here you have it BON-GIRLZ....our quote of the day...comes from the very beautiful SoledadAngel: "KEEP PUSHIN LADIES.. THE EASIEST THING BEHIND YOU NOW...IS YESTERDAY". Thanks gorgeous!!

HEY CURVES..AND THE REST OF THE GIRLZ HERE.. NICE TO MEET SOME OF YOU LAST NITE.. WHAT A BLAST I HAD. KEEP PUSHIN LADIES.. THE EASIEST THING BEHIND YOU NOW..IS YESTERDAY.

Hope everyone has an amazing weekend. It was so fantastic meeting some of my BON Girlz....at Cancun Cantina last nite. It was a blast! Be safe and stay STRONG!!

Morning BON Friends....our quote of the day comes from "hddrbob": "Here's to everyone that shows up for another day; may you be blessed and safe". Thanks for the great words....!

The only thing that stays the same is things are always changing. Eveyone has the potential for streangth. Use your power to make the choice for change. Life blessed me with a powerful women as a partner, powerful enough to call me on my shit & let me work it out. Respect is the key, love is the handle but some doors are a struggle. So here's to everyone that shows up for another day, may you be blessed and safe.

HB.....thanks for your post. I'm sure everyone appreciates your support! Thanks for taking time to visit the event.

Hats off to all the strong indepedent women that do it on there own. I have nothing but respect for you ladies. Don't give up the fight!

wglide....another very cool and what I consider true concept! My interpretation...(could vary from other's)...If someone is incapable of valuing and respecting your things; they aren't capable of valuing and respecting you! Makes sense to me! I always say if someone doesn't love themselves; how could they possibly love you?

Stormbreeze....what a terrific quote! BON Girlz....don't ever settle for less! Thanks!

This is a re-post for those that missed it: Here is an idea for a little "homework" assignment. Ladies....Participate only if you want to! Tomorrow is "Hump Day"....no correlation....just love that word...hump...hump...hump....lol. Tomorrow, I want us to live the day with love and happiness in our hearts. Do this in whatever manner you wish. Then, I want you to come back here, and tell us exactly how you accomplished this. Remember.....use baby steps if you aren't ready for more than that, and only post if you want or are comfortable posting your results. Have fun with it and see you all back here tomorrow!

I'd better catch up on my thanks to some of you folks before I get too far behind....."Mojo"....luv the name....I also really ditto your post! Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to share that wonderful quote!

One of life's lessons learned the hard way: Pay attention to how someone honors your possessions, for that is a good indicator of how they will eventually honor you.

Never settle for less then you're worth or you'll get less then what you settled for...

What lies before and what lies behind us is nothing compared to what lies inside us! Blessed are the men that know us, love us and get to keep us!

thanks curves for the words of power and hope..we all want what curves wrote here.women and men. heres to the lucky ones who find us..and smart enough this time around to not let us go..to love,respect,value,cherish what they have.

BB....Told you BON had amazing and inspiring women! You just gave me an awesome idea for a little "homework" assignment. Ladies....Participate only if you want to! Tomorrow is "Hump Day"....no correlation....just love that word...hump...hump...hump....lol. Tomorrow, I want us to live the day with love and happiness in our hearts. Do this in whatever manner you wish. Then, I want you to come back here, and tell us exactly how you accomplished this. Remember.....use baby steps if you aren't ready for more than that, and only post if you want or are comfortable posting your results. Have fun with it and see you all back here tomorrow!

BON Girlz......today's slogan of the day comes to us from Biking Banker: Life is too short, we need to live it with love and happiness..and let it show"! thanks for an amazing quote.......

Very perceptive Curves...We can ALWAYS better our selves...and I have not had an easy life or had anything handed to me on a silver platter..I have worked since I was 15 yrs old..When I got separated I lived in a trailer park with my 2 children. It took me 7 years to get divorced!I worked my way up in Banking but my children always saw me happy! I am a determined person and refuse to let life get me down. Life is to short, we need to live it with love and happiness..and let it show!

Banker......those that know you personally, know more than I of course. I do however get the feeling, that you are this truly amazing and giving friend. This very free spirit, that respects herself so much, that respect for other's is just the norm. A lady that always has the strength to find the good in everything and everyone. I have a feeling that obstacles for you BB, are merely stepping stones (although very painful, and I would never down play someone's hardships), to discovering just how much better a person you can become! If that's even possible!! How far off point am I??

KB...great point! How can we possibly make anyone happy, unless we have reached the happiness that truly comes from within? Another good point you've made (my interpretation of what you've said), is that a positive and strong person, attracts positive and strong people around them. Like magnets! Misery loves company right?? Well KB's transformation only allows her to focus on the positive and therefore, the positive peeps....surround you! Nice Job KB...thanks for the input. Please feel free to set me straight if I misinterpreted anything. Sometimes my mind runs like the wind!!

Curves..I have to tell you I really like what you are doing here...Everyone has had difficult times in there lives and sometimes we feel we are so alone in the world..You have created a haven for people who just need to hear they are not alone..My hat's off to you Curves..Keep up the great work and remember Life is all about Attitude...You can choose to be Happy or Sad..I choose Happy.. :) Smile it's contagious!

Soledad...my Angel.....It's so hard to let go when the heart is involved. Even when our sixth sense tells us the relationship is wrong; we insist on trying. The truth is, there will be guys that are completely wrong for us, but most importantly, there are guys out there who are very deserving! This one guy will love you for who you are because, he knows you are absolutely amazing inside. He will feel like he is a better man, friend, father, lover, simply because you are in his life. He will respect you, your dreams, goals and aspirations because, no matter our age; we all have them. His presence will make you feel like there isn't an obstacle in the road you can't overcome. He believes in you; loves and respects your friends, and values every moment you are in his world. He brags about the awesome mom you are and holds your hand through those disappointing times. He lets you have the freedom to be who you are because, he is confident and believes in your love. He admires the beautiful butterfly you are for he doesn't want to be around a caterpillar. He is not threatened by the independence that makes you radiate from within. He knows that you are free to love whom ever, but feels graced by God because, you've chosen him!....

Sunshinegirl....what you posted rings so true for me. I was so determined to get out, that I was willing to live in a cardboard box if it meant, removing myself from the misery, and finding happiness! My kids weren't up for the drastic challenge....lol!

Curves...sooo true! Its about acceptance. Accepting what is and going on with life!!! LIFE IS GOOOD!!

Curves....I like her much better than that whiney, crying feel sorry for me..I found people avoided me like that and when I transformed..they said its nice to have KARE back!! (yes ..NON BONS call me that too) Its a big awakening to realize that only you can make you happy...if that isnt true..nobody around you will be either!

WELL MANY MOONS BACK...FOR ME IT TOOK ALOMOST 2 YEARS TO FIGURE OUT..MY EX WASNT GOOD FOR ME..SO HOW IN THE WORLD COULD HE EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME. OUR TODAYS LADIES MAY HAVE THE HILLS AND FOR SOME OF US..MOUNTAINS TO SEE.BUT AS THE SONG SAYS.. THERE WILL ALWAYS BE MOUNTAINS YOU'LL HAVE TO MOVE...THE JOURNERY LADIES IS...IT'S ABOUT THE THE CLIMB.

When I went through my divorce I said to myself. I wound rather be alone, then put up with BULL SHIT !!!!!!!!!

BON GIRLZ HAVE ATTITUDES...........POSITIVE ATTITUDES!!!

Goddess....it really is all about "attitude", and putting oneself in the right frame of mind. I believe that there is always something we can take away from any situation. I realize its difficult to see that silver lining at first, but there are lessons and insights around those corners. Thank you so much for sharing your positive "attitude" with us!

KB...actually, you don't sound bitter at all! You do sound like you have been transformed in a positive way (painful as heck I'm sure), and that the direction you are heading in is a much welcomed one! How do you like the Newly Improved KB???

This is a great way to share our strengths and support with one another. I like many other women here have had to endure some difficult times.. I try to look at them as lessons in life and difficulties that make me stronger as a person. I always try to stay true to myself, treat others well and love with all my heart. I truly believe a great attitude will get you through anything!

Took me 3 years to deal with my husband walking out but finally came to realize that I dont NEED a man in my life....when the time comes it will be because I WANT ONE...I want him to meet the completed me...and I dont need a man or anyone else to complete who I am...only I can do that..I want to Need a man cuz I love him....not love him because I need him!! I FEEL BETTER..sometimes ya just need to vent! (can ya tell I am still bitter?)

Patti...I am so happy to see you here! You should know, that everyone here right now, is behind you! My love and support to you always! One day at a time; we can do it together!

I AM WITH YA CURVES!!!

hey curves..i'm with ya girl.. the pride is about world..watch us shine.

BON Girlz.....I'm feeling like a LION today!! Who's with me???

Angelwhispers....I can't wait to see what terrific grown-ups our children become! Thanks for everything!

CaT....I am so happy that Angelwhispers post helped you in some way. That's what this is all about! Besos para ti querida!

I actually needed to hear about anglewhispers strength! thank you for sharing! I'm a Cat so hear me ROAR! lol BESOS my amigas!

Curves, I thank you for starting this, it is a wonderful place for women to express what trials and tribulations have made them who they are today. My daughter, like yours is stronger and my sons are kinder and gentler souls, I think a lot is due to what they have been through as well as the way that I raised them. Never raise your hand to a women, be fair, treat others as you wish to be treated and ALWAYS be respectful. God Bless you for doing this. I needed it today.

Angelwhispers....that was certainly a life altering event yet you are here and standing. Very sad to loose the love of your life and be left with all the questions and the pain. So young, yet so strong!! We hear you ROAR!! Thanks for sharing your inspiring story, and yes the women on this site are pretty amazing aren't they?

BkrGrl.....that's because Bon friends love you exactly the way you are!! Thanks for stopping by and posting! Best of luck with the "new" man in your life!

After my husband suicide (he shot himself in the head in front on myself and my 3 small children) I had to pick myself up, dust myself off and continue on.I was alone in Kansas, my family was in Maine. I had three babies and I was 26 years young. What was I going to do, lay down and die with him? I wanted to, he was the love of my life. I couldn't, I had babies. A year later, I had developed a cyst on my right ovary that required they removed it, three months later it occured again on the left and the same procedure was necessary. I KNOW I AM A STRONG WOMAN.. HEAR ME ROAR... :) I have also met some of the most amazing and strong women I know on here. They come from all walks of life and I know that when push comes to shove, I can always count of them and they can always count of me.. Thank you BON

Angel...I would say you've had your share of devastation, hardship and near loss, yet you still continue to have courage and strength! You Go Girl!

Higgins.....thanks for being here and offering to listen when needed. You know us BON girlz.....tough as nails! It is however; always nice to have a soft place to land every now and then!

I joined BON over a year ago and have made some amazing friends (women and men)who accept me for ME, a strong, independent and fun person. I have even recently met and amazing man who I hope will be around for awhile ;)

I don't want to sound like I'm bragging. But I know I am a strong woman. I have raised 2 kids on my own (with the help of family), been through 2 house fires while we were in it. I saved my son's life when he drowned at age 4. But then again he has saved my life many times too. I am no hero, by far. But I do live up to my name, Angel. I want to thank all of the strong women that have come into my life and made a difference.

i feel the same as spokes my female friends on BON r the best friends i ever had i love everyone of them i have the best friends n the world on BON and wouldnt have it any other way look me up have big ears and a big heart love having new friends

Today has been a great day...although the sun isn't shining....the Rays of Hope are everywhere. Suck it all in folks!

LH thanks for stopping in....and thanks for posting!

Made me go back to my roots..great thing Harleys and true friends

He inspired me to be the Warrior I am today. I grew stronger and more humble because of his journey. Thank you so much for your kind words and this gives me another reason to love BON. My BON friends have helped me heal. Thank you for providing this forum for all to see. You are a great person! I am proud to know you.

Spirit...you are one of those women I referred to in the event outline....you don't even know just how terrific I think you are!! Thanks for stopping in!!

Risha...Like I said in my email sweetheart....You've moved me to tears....but those tears make me stronger one drop at a time! You're story is of course extremely sad and I am so sorry for your profound loss...because it is so deep and profound, but its the courage you exhibit because of this loss that makes you truly inspirational!! Thanks for it all!!

Sandeez.....that's the attitude we want to hear....GIVE TIME TIME! Peeps visit Sandeez profile for additional inspiration!

Spokes....thanks for your support. To hear you talk about how you've have been helped makes me realize just how powerful people can be. Yes....seeing someone else go through a difficult time has a way of making us reflect on ourselves doesn't it? At first it always seems like the pain will never go away, and that we must be the only one's going through it, that's only until you see someone else going through something worse. It so great that you shared this.....thank you!

Thank you Curves for this. This just goes to show how beautiful and caring you are. To let us share with each other. These women have moved to tears. I'm just so blessed to know some of them. Thank You.

Truthfulone...I understand exactly what you mean!! You are so right...sometimes we just don't have a choice and must grin and bear all the pain life brings our way! Truth is.....nothing makes us stronger than facing adversity because there is no easy way out! You're AWESOME!!

cAt.....I'm gonna start with you because I have several new postings!! Wow girl....what can I say other than, I am in awe of you!! You've already inspired me......I can't wait to hear feedback on how you are inspiring other's!! Thanks for sharing your amazing and powerful story!

Time heals almost everything. Give time time. I have learned what makes me strong, there are too many things to list here..check out my profile where I spilled my guts you may find we all have a lot in common.

I lost the love of my life to Non-Hodkins Lymphoma. He fought it for seven years! He said that he fought it because he did not want to leave this Earth without me. He was a fantastic man and the greatest warrior I have had the pleasure of knowing. He got lost in the Hospital. He had to get a nuprygyn shot that helps the immune system. He wandered into the Childrens' Hospital where a little boy ran up to him and said "Hi, We have the same haircut." He was truly moved by this little Boys' spirit. This inspired us to write a Childrens' Book to help bring a smile to anyone needing to be happy. A portion of the book sales will go to Cancer Research. This story is not about me but about a beautiful man whom never complained once. During all this time he taught me how to ride. I ride everywhere for him. He loved to ride. That is why I am here on BON. He is my hero! RIP My Love! The Angels are lucky to have you!

Wow! This is awesome and that's how I ended up here...nasty divorce...I thought I had friends and family...so I joined here to find some new friends and I have! It has been the girls here that I have met...the things they have been thru in their lives and the strength and resolve that they have to carry on...That has shown me to put my past behind me and to look forward to tomorrow....namaste.

I am a product of my Enviroment, I have no choice but to be strong.

wow, where to start. i was in an abusive relationship of 22 years and left b/c i didn't want my son or daughter to *think* that it was okay or that is how relationships should be in their lives. i divorced and found strength to get through it with the help of family and some very special and strong friendships i have cultivated along the way. about 3 years ago i found out that i had the beginning stages of cervical cancer and after three procedures i'm in remission as of January of this year! yeah! finally, i lost my job last year after being there for 25 years...but through all that has happened to me, including some pretty screwed up "after" the divorce relationships with men, i found through the grace of God and HIS guidance the strength to keep going. i think it's in my blood to never give up, to keep on moving forward and in the most positive way i can. i give thanks to my Heavenly Father every day for what he has given me...strength...that i need to complete my journey!

Banker.....just wonderful! Thanks, I loved it....and other's will too! Please read more than once for its contents are both powerful and profound!

OK..these are some else's words..But I live by them..Life is an attitude..Enjoy it everyday! There is ALWAYS something to enjoy and be thankful for, some days you just have to search a little harder than others.. This is a quote from the page of INKSLINGERSONYOU: AS WE GROW OLDER WE BEGIN TO REALIZE THAT EVERY DAY IS JUST ONE DAY CLOSER TO AN END OF OUR EXISTENCE IN THIS WORLD. WE BEGIN TO WANT TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH THE ONES WHOM TRULY LOVE US, CHERISHING EVERY MOMENT WE HAVE AVAILABLE WITH THEM. OUR CHILDREN GROW IN THE BLINK OF AN EYE, AND WE HOPE FOR THEM THAT SOME DAY THEY TO REALIZE WHAT IS REALLY IMPORTANT IN LIVING. ITS NOT ABOUT THE MONEY, THE TOYS OR MY STATUS AMONG MY PEERS. ITS ABOUT THE QUALITY OF LIFE, LOVE AND THE MOMENTS I SPEND WITH THOSE I CHERISH, AND THOSE THAT CHERISH ME. ITS ABOUT GIVING, NOT TAKING, AND SHARING IN THE WEALTH THAT COMES FROM THE SOUL. ITS THE LITTLE THINGS IN LIFE THAT GO UNNOTICED AND THEN SUDDENLY BECOME THINGS WE CHERISH AND WANT TO HOLD ON TO UNTIL THE END. HOLDING HANDS, A TENDER KISS, A LOVING TOUCH ARE JUST A FEW, AND THE LIST GOES ON. DREAMS DO COME TRUE, IF YOU LET THEM. SUCCESS IS FOUND FROM WITHIN, ITS A HAPPY HEART AND A JOYFUL SOUL. ITS FOUND IN EVERY BREATH YOU TAKE AND CAN FILL A ROOM WITH JOY AND COMFORT. LOOK INTO THE EYES OF THOSE YOU LOVE AND TELL THEM SO. FOR IT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO GIVE LOVE, UNCONDITIONALLY, THAN TO RECEIVE IT.

When sharing a moment with a complete stranger....let your words be inspiring, and your actions motivational. This may be the moment in which this stranger will lift him or herself from the abyss!

Wow Turbo....that explains why you are who you are! I think its amazing how "Mother's" instill strength in their children with kindness and in the most subdued and soft spoken manner?? Shows us that strength has nothing to do with our physical beings! Thanks for sharing!

My father taught me how to endure pain and suffering but my mother gave me the wisdom and insight to know when to let go of the hurt and move on. She and my father had a wonderful marriage for 68 years and then my father passed away. My mom is 86, still volunteers at the local hospital two days a week and belongs to several civic organizations. She lives each day to help others, and she gives all the credit to God for giving her the strength to do his will. She's a remarkable lady and I admire and love her dearly.

Although Strength comes from within.....it will manifest on the outside too! It makes the average woman beautiful, and the beautiful woman humble!

Thankas Spirit.. All i can be is myself.. now it's time for me to finally gain an adoptive family so i can have a family away from my family.

boop you don't know it yet but you have made some damn good friends on this site. We will stick by you and stand up for you. Just be the kind of friend to us that we are to you. I spent the weekend with you in OC and you are an awesome person. Keep doing what your doing sweetheart.

Bboop.....strength has to start somewhere, and its awesome that for your children, you've decided, that its going to start with you! Kudos!!

Spirit.....those are certainly 4 amazing rules to live by. You're both blessed to have each other!

Strenght, wow... for me it has to come from with in... i have been the only person i could count on, no one else... i strive for excellence so that my children can see that there is hope in everything we do.. i'm strong for them.

My strenght comes from my MoM. She is 81 and stil takes care of me. She is my best'est friend and biggest fan. I don't know where I would be without her. I don't worry about things to much. She taught me to do what I can and not to sweat the small stuff. Growing up in Baltimore City in the 70's and 80's was hard just because of the way I look. 4 things she taught me that I still abide by today. 1. Just be yourself. 2. If you can't beat them pick up a stick (LOL) 3. Always stand up for your country no matter what. and 4. Stay steadfast in your belief in God. These 4 things I will never forget. A flag flys in my front yard everyday it is not raining or snowing in Honor of my Father and Brother who served in the US Army. This is the reason I am who I am. I Love you MoM!!

Soledad...you are officially, our "Angel". Thanks for your beautiful, powerful words!

Nicely put Dragon Queen. Thanks for joining us, and for your post!

hello curves... i just wanted to say.. that i'm glad there are women here on bon and in this world who gather and share the love,courage and power of strength with each other to help us know that our todays may be hard.. but our tommorrows will hold better things for us all.

Nice to meet you, Curves and very good of you to start this. I also want to say that this place should be strictly a place of positivity for all who come here. No bashing of men and women. This is not the place. We will support each other and lift each other up. xxxx

But..she is a lousy cook...I was the only kid at camp that loved the food. Tink..I am sorry you have had some hard days. They honestly do build character but that does not mean squat on lonely nights. Just hang in there.

Woody, I salute and celebrate your MOM! You honor her just by recognizing that amazing quality within her! Thanks for sharing!

Strength?? Easiest answer on this planet...My Mom...she is 81 going on 51...she is my rock. The reason I have ever enjoyed any success is because she prays for me every day..She is such a wonderful servant of God that he honors her pleas. She is a testamant to all strong women everywhere.

Curves, yesterday we found out how much more we have in common.. I admire you for all that you've done for me and yet we haven't met in person.. your heart and soul and precious and you are a wonderful woman!!!

Woody you are absolutely right! Now, tell us whose strength you admire and why?

Woody... I hear YA.. Divorce is ROUGH.. Been there done that.. You are in my thoughts & prayers..

psssst..it is easier the third time.

I am anywhere strong women hang out!!! BTW..Divorce hits men just as stronglty as it hits women.

You are the BEST Curves.. We've BOTH gone thru so much and now we are both going thru so MUCH... I didn't make it to the DR today.. My son didn't make it to SCHOOL so I can't take him to the DR's w/o him asking alot of questions. I will go on monday, thou..

A small gift to you Rebecca...with all my love!

Thank you CURVES! I am going through a rough time and because of you I am finding a way to be stronger for my SON!!

CURVES...LOVE THAT SAYING!!!

Because of my determination; my daughther is STRONG! Because of my strength; my boyz are KINDER!